Chapter 3 Question 1

“Our inner blockage to ‘turning our will over’ is only overcome by a decision. It will not usually happen with a feeling, or a mere idea, or a religious Scripture like the ones above. It is the will itself, our stubborn and self-defeating willfulness that must be first converted and handed over.” -Richard Rohr

Step 3 states that we “made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.” Do you think this is easy, or difficult? Why?


3 thoughts on “Chapter 3 Question 1

  1. It’s my belief that it is both. On some levels you are surrendering ego and control… but you’re giving it to God and He’s got it covered. I have so much to say on this but it’s hard to put into words. I think of what I went through with infertility and how I finally just gave it all to God…. and look how that ended for me. 🙂

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  2. I think it depends on the person and if they are ready to turn their will and life over to God. I was totally ready. I was becoming very ill and became fearful of dying. I needed help. I met wonderful people in AA and they gave me great guidance, but I really needed and wanted God to help me. I also believe that God does work through people as well. When I begin to work with a new sponsee, and we get to this step, if they are struggling with letting go, I explain to them that at this point, they are just making a decision and then I let that rest on them for a little. Then we dig deeper. It always reaffirms my letting go also.

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  3. Sandy, your comment reminds me of something I heard in a meeting once: if three frogs are sitting on a log, and one makes a decision to jump into the water, how many frogs are on the log? All three; a decision is good, but it doesn’t change anything unless it’s followed by action.

    I find that’s kind of how this works for me. There is an ebb and flow to my willingness to turn things over (and not take them back). On my good, spiritually-centered days, I’m able to do the footwork I need to do and then leave things alone; on my off-center days, I’m running around like a maniac trying to do everything and then chewing on it mentally. One of the many paradoxes of the spiritual life for me is the fact that, once I completely accepted the fact that I had no control over a major crisis in my life and turned it over to God, I found peace; when I was trying to maintain control, I was constantly agitated and cranked up, constantly looking for more things I could do to influence things. In some ways, learning this required hitting a new bottom, getting to a point where there was manifestly absolutely nothing I could do to control or even influence a situation; until I got to that point, I could pay lip service to this idea while still trying to have control.

    I also find that it’s a process, not an event. It’s not like I was able to turn my will and my life over to the care of God one day and that was that. I have to make that decision over and over and over again, and follow it up with concrete action. Like most things, it gets easier with practice, and in time becomes almost habitual.


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